We have just finished "Poetic Mess," a 7 part series based loosely off the 12 steps, at church. It was an interesting series and helped me to understand that you don't have to be an alcoholic to follow the 12 steps. The 12 steps are based off biblical principles. There are all sorts of things that some of us struggle thru on a daily basis. Overeating, Narcissism, Anger, Blaming, Talking down to your Spouse/Children, Overspending, Stealing, Controlling, addictions to Sex, Gambling, Money, Pornography... the list can go on....
I learned that the 12 steps are a framework for change, and what I already know is that it is not easy and not meant to be. I see people who are walking thru these steps each day at work, and walking thru them over many years. My very own brother follows these steps and I am proud of him for that. They are to help you re-frame how you look at your own self. They help you to react, to be grateful, remember darkness, and to see how far you have come. You can't skip one step, you start at Step 1 and move forward. Moving forward is the key. It made me think about things I need to change in my own life.
I had never read the 12 steps all the way thru until this series and it's nice to know what so many people are trying to follow.
Step 1: We admit that we are powerless over our problems- and that our lives have become unmanageable.
Step 2: We have come to believe that God can restore sanity to our lives.
Step 3: Make the decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God
Step 4: Make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
Step 5: Admit to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Step 6: We are entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
Step 7: Humbly ask God to remove our shortcomings
Step 8: Make a list of all the people we have harmed, and become willing to make amends with them all
Step 9: Actually make direct amends with those people whenever possible, except when to do so would cause harm to them or to others
Step 10: Continue to take personal inventory of ourselves, and when we are wrong, promptly admit it
Step 11: Seek through prayer and meditation to improve our connection with God, praying for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out
Step 12: Carry this message of hope to other struggling people so that we can help them as we have been helped